Attraction
This may be the only topic I like more than war. I had a revelation. How does a man behave to attract a woman? We all know that the gentlemanly approach does not work. A man who is too attentive to a woman will always lose her.
Women like bad boys, but they never admit it. They say they want a man who is understanding and sensitive. What they mean is they want a bad boy who is understanding and sensitive.
Women do not want to be TOLD that a man loves her. Women are correct in reading this as an insincere attempt to advance the relationship. Men never tell a woman who he actually loves, that he loves her. Conversely, men frequently tell women they wish to copulate with that they are in love. Women are too smart for this. Usually.
(Note for the marital stability of the author: This topic refers to male/female relationships of people who recently met. People who have been married 20 years can say "I love you" and actually mean it).
A woman wants to be shown that a man loves her. How does he do this? Buy her flowers and take her to nice restaurants? Absolutely wrong. This is an extension of saying "I love you". It's money instead of words, but it's the same message. Women do not like this.
A man who treats a woman like a friend causes attraction. A man who recognizes a woman for her great personality causes attraction. Think about that. When a woman doesn't want to see a guy anymore she says "let's just be friends". When a guy tries to sell his buddy on an unattractive woman he says "she has a great personality".
It's the ying and yang of relationships. Women want to be "friends" with the guys who don't attract her. But she wants to be "friendly" with the guy who treats her like one of the guys. Men say a woman has a great personality when he means that she has no other attractive features. A man who can talk to a woman endlessly because her personality is so in synch with his own will melt her heart in little time.
Our rejections of each other point toward our attractions.
Thursday May 11, 2006 - 08:53pm (MDT)
Women like bad boys, but they never admit it. They say they want a man who is understanding and sensitive. What they mean is they want a bad boy who is understanding and sensitive.
Women do not want to be TOLD that a man loves her. Women are correct in reading this as an insincere attempt to advance the relationship. Men never tell a woman who he actually loves, that he loves her. Conversely, men frequently tell women they wish to copulate with that they are in love. Women are too smart for this. Usually.
(Note for the marital stability of the author: This topic refers to male/female relationships of people who recently met. People who have been married 20 years can say "I love you" and actually mean it).
A woman wants to be shown that a man loves her. How does he do this? Buy her flowers and take her to nice restaurants? Absolutely wrong. This is an extension of saying "I love you". It's money instead of words, but it's the same message. Women do not like this.
A man who treats a woman like a friend causes attraction. A man who recognizes a woman for her great personality causes attraction. Think about that. When a woman doesn't want to see a guy anymore she says "let's just be friends". When a guy tries to sell his buddy on an unattractive woman he says "she has a great personality".
It's the ying and yang of relationships. Women want to be "friends" with the guys who don't attract her. But she wants to be "friendly" with the guy who treats her like one of the guys. Men say a woman has a great personality when he means that she has no other attractive features. A man who can talk to a woman endlessly because her personality is so in synch with his own will melt her heart in little time.
Our rejections of each other point toward our attractions.
Thursday May 11, 2006 - 08:53pm (MDT)
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